Let’s be honest.
There are people in our lives that are very hard to love, at least we think so.
They are always getting on our nerves.
Unfortunately, or fortunately, depending on how one looks at it, we cannot run from some of these people.
They are in our lives to stay. (Colossians 3:13)
What is one supposed to do when their child, spouse, parent, or sibling is hard to love?
It’s like they never appreciate what you do, no matter how much you try to please them.
Well, here are ways that you can love people, such people:
See Them For Who They Are
Let us be honest;
Most of us choose to see people the way we want them to be and not who they are.
We do not take time to understand these people because we have our own expectations about them, and when they do not meet those expectations, we end up thinking that they are hard to love.
But we can change our view about these people and love them the right way by accepting them for who they really are instead of what you want them to be.
We all have our strengths and weaknesses. When you focus on someone’s fault, you’ll never see the best in them. They will always disappoint you. Be sympathetic towards them. (1 Peter 3:8)
So instead of focusing on that person’s weaknesses, choose to focus on their strength.
Listen To Them Instead Of Reacting
Someone might seem difficult to you, but maybe you are not listening to them, you just react to everything they tell you.
Try to listen to what the person is saying instead of reacting.
Do not be quick to judge what they are doing or saying because people express themselves differently.
We make mistakes from time to time, and just the way you mess up and expect people to understand you is the same way that you should understand other people when they mess up.
Pray For Them
The best way to love someone is to pray for them.
Instead of complaining about that person, start praying for them. See, you cannot change someone, but God can because he knows the person inside out. (Jeremiah 24:7)
Ask God to help you see that person the way he sees him or her.
Set Healthy Boundaries
If someone proves to be a problem in your life, then you need to set healthy boundaries.
Even though Jesus interacted with so many people, he did not entrust himself to them.
Jesus set healthy boundaries with those he interacted with.
This means that you can love, help, and be kind to someone without being their best friend. (John 2:24)
There are so many different reasons why people act the way they do.
Though someone may be difficult to deal with, we should not be quick to judge them because you do not know what they’re going through.
Let us always see the best in people by focusing on their strengths instead of their weaknesses.
Try to listen to them instead of reacting to everything they say and pray for them, for that is the best way to love someone.
If they are just difficult, then go ahead and set healthy boundaries.